Do You Have A Drinking Problem Once Per Week?

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In 2019 I went out almost every Friday night with my friends. We went to our local bars for drinks, dinner, and dancing. This might seem like a regular thing to do on a Friday night. If you were doing it every Friday night and you are drinking, you may actually have a drinking problem and not know it. After careful analysis of what I have been doing, I have determined that I have a Friday night drinking problem. Here is why I know that in 2020 I must cut back on my alcohol or eliminate it altogether.

With the state of this world today, I can imagine it that many people look forward to drinking on the weekend. It’s a way to relax, unwind, forget about work, and just have fun with the people that you care about it. The problem with this is it often gets out of control without you even knowing it. One or two beers end up becoming three or four. Before you know it, you could have 6 or 10. You end up waking up in the morning with a serious headache or a bad hangover and wonder why you did what you did. You shrug it off and think that it’s just the normal thing to do when it’s not.

Every Friday, I have been looking forward to drinking. I’ve been looking forward to spending time with my friends but the fact that I was going to be drinking was more on my mind than having a great conversation with my friends. I was looking forward to those Friday beers. Tomorrow is Friday and I am going out with my friends, but I’m not going to be drinking. This is my decision in 2020. I know that my drinking is starting to be a problem that I must address now.

It indicates to me that I am having a problem with drinking is that I do not remember everything I did that night. We often refer to this as a blackout. This is because you’ve simply drunk too much alcohol and you can’t remember what you have done in that night because your memory is so impaired. While I have made it home every night, taken a taxi and not gotten into any trouble, on many occasions, I don’t remember what I did on that Friday night.

This is another indication to me that my drinking is out of control on Friday night. My wife can go out with me on Friday night and she can have one or two coolers. I can’t really stop at one or two beers. I have to have 5 and then after that, I have more. Once we move to the next bar, I stopped drinking beer because it leaves me too bloated, and I start to drink rum and coke. Before the night is over, I have consumed seven or eight beer and probably half a dozen rum and coke.

My wife can go out and enjoy one or two drinks while I simply get blasted out of my mind. I wake up the next day and my wife tells me what I have been doing. Lucky for me I haven’t done anything bad but I don’t remember what I did. This tells me that I have to stop consuming so much alcohol because it’s starting to become a serious problem.

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I have also had feelings that I want to drink more alcohol than I should on other days of the week. My wife and I go out to dinner, and I want to have two or three beers. This might be fine under normal circumstances but then I am compounding this with my drinking on a Friday night. If you find yourself looking forward to alcohol more than the fact that you were going out to enjoy a good meal, you could be developing a drinking problem. This is what I am developing and one I plan to put a stop to.

From NPR.org

“The reality of the situation is that most adults who drink, they’re drinking maybe a couple of drinks during week and then typically drinking [larger] amounts on weekends,” says Robert Brewer, an epidemiologist with the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and co-author of a new study published in Preventing Chronic Disease.

And what that means is that 1 in 3 adults drinks excessively.”

Everyone likes to have a great BBQ where you get together with friends to watch some movies and have a couple of drinks. This is fine, and most of us do this. If it is occurring every weekend and you can’t seem to go an entire weekend without having a drink, then it’s probably becoming a serious problem. My drinking has not been periodic; it has been every weekend.

It has not been just a couple of beers with the guys, and it has been many beers with the guys and other drinks until I am blasted out of my gourd. This is what I was doing as a young teenager. I didn’t do it through most of my adult life. Now that I am almost 50 and have more friends to spend time with, I’m starting to do it again and I know I have to stop. I am not just enjoying a couple of beers with my friends.

Getting drunk every Friday night when you’re almost 50 years old is an indication of a drinking problem. On New Year’s Eve, we decided not to go out, and we stayed home and had a nice dinner. While I did enjoy a couple of beers on New Year’s Eve, I didn’t get blasted out of my mind. I am drinking beer or other alcohol to excess when the weekend is something that I’m going to stop doing before it spirals out of control. It’s simply not necessary for me to enjoy myself on a Friday night and drink that much alcohol. I can assure you as you reach 50 years old, hangovers in the morning can be quite brutal.

“According to the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, drinking is considered to be in the moderate or low-risk range for women at no more than three drinks in any one day and no more than seven drinks per week. For men, it is no more than four drinks a day and no more than 14 drinks per week.”

If you look forward to the weekend and drinking with friends, you should have a look at your own drinking. Getting blasted out of your mind one day out of the week may sound like not that big of a deal, but it is. This sort of drinking can creep up on you and before you know it, you could end up an alcoholic. It’s fine to have a couple of drinks while you’re out, but if you’re doing it to excess each weekend, then it is becoming a problem. You have to ask yourself why you were drinking so much on the weekend.

For me, it has been an escape from the world around me that seems to be in such chaos these days. I know that this is simply an excuse and that I am drinking too much at the weekend because I enjoy it. this indicates that I need to stop and if you were drinking all the time on the weekend, you should probably stop, too.

I will update this article periodically throughout the year so you can see how I am doing. I don’t plan to drink to excess until I am drunk or blacked out; it simply cannot happen again. It’s not worth it at my age to make this part of my lifestyle. This weekend, my wife and I are also going to join the gym. Another drawback to drinking too much alcohol is you add weight quite quickly. Beer is not kind to you at this age.

Brian is an online writer and blogger. In his spare time, he plays guitar and goes camping. Visit him at : https://www.lamacraftwritingservices.com/

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